Although the initial poster's account is now closed, it's very strange reading his post because I have felt the same frustrations on many occasions trying to acquire some skill in this game. Tactics and slower games must be the answer for new players. As a newbie, I feel compelled to learn, but frustrated and intimidated while playing. I'm just happy doing tactics, watching videos and reading about the game for now. In my opinion, chess should be more social in the beginning to allow new players to slowly adjust to the competitive nature of the game. Sitting at a board for 4 hours OTB with not a word said can't be a very inviting experience for the aspiring novice.
Well, a baby falls 200 times(on average) before learning to walk... After i heard this i realized i never struggled 200 times on anything, i have all the time gave up. Then i figured, i have been so much scared of lose. I guess as we getting age we get much more lazyness and fear. babies, little children never give up, they just struggle because they dont have any idea of losing, they dont care if they will lose, they keep doing it.
So, if you dont like it and if it makes you unhappy, just quit. But if you like it and if you just dont have a patience to lose then you should give a try.
Be like a baby!
So, if you dont like it and if it makes you unhappy, just quit. But if you like it and if you just dont have a patience to lose then you should give a try.
Be like a baby!
It is sad to see that the original poster's account is now closed, and I wish I could've convinced him not to, but nevertheless I have some things to say on the topic.
I understand completely. I have a naturally competitive personality, and usually when I tell people that they act like it is a mental issue that I need to change, but this isn't accurate. A competitive personality is a good thing in my case, as it motivates me to work harder to be good at the things I love, like chess, if only for the joy of winning at them. Because of this, I have gone up 800 points in rating over two accounts (Had to change email addresses) in the span of about seven or eight months, about three of which dedicated to studying chess. I am still improving. However, a downside to this is that with losing comes a lot of despair, frustration, self-loathing, and general stress, making learning from error rather difficult, because instead of reasonably analyzing what I did wrong, I just blame myself for losing a game that I feel I should've won, whether or not it was even possible to at my level, and I almost certainly end up thinking about it all night and lose sleep over it. Despite this, I am always a good sport in victory or defeat and never act out over it in the presence of anyone else, but it is a shame of mine to be so brooding over a simple game. One thing holding me back from improving is my unwillingness to play many subsequent games, either because I am playing bad and don't want to continue losing rating points, or because I am playing good and don't want to push my luck.
There have been times in the game of chess, and indeed many other things I have worked hard to get good at, where I have felt compelled to quit entirely over a series of losses. I am on such a loss streak now and feel slightly awful. When that happens I think it is advisable to take a short break, figure out what might be deteriorating your play, be it exterior distractions, lack of sleep, food, hydration, a boggled mind, anything, and then solve it and try again, which is what I intend to do over the next hour.
As the poster said, he has that competitive spirit, but in his case, lacks the motivation to try hard to improve. Chess is the sort of game that requires a lot of time, effort, and energy to get better at, some of you know that better than I. A solution to laziness is hard to find, but maybe the reason he lacks motivation in the first place is that chess just isn't for him and he doesn't really find enjoyment in it at all. It can't be for everyone. Surely he will come across something he truly enjoys, and he will feel compelled to improve at that, and I wish him luck in this endeavor.
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I understand completely. I have a naturally competitive personality, and usually when I tell people that they act like it is a mental issue that I need to change, but this isn't accurate. A competitive personality is a good thing in my case, as it motivates me to work harder to be good at the things I love, like chess, if only for the joy of winning at them. Because of this, I have gone up 800 points in rating over two accounts (Had to change email addresses) in the span of about seven or eight months, about three of which dedicated to studying chess. I am still improving. However, a downside to this is that with losing comes a lot of despair, frustration, self-loathing, and general stress, making learning from error rather difficult, because instead of reasonably analyzing what I did wrong, I just blame myself for losing a game that I feel I should've won, whether or not it was even possible to at my level, and I almost certainly end up thinking about it all night and lose sleep over it. Despite this, I am always a good sport in victory or defeat and never act out over it in the presence of anyone else, but it is a shame of mine to be so brooding over a simple game. One thing holding me back from improving is my unwillingness to play many subsequent games, either because I am playing bad and don't want to continue losing rating points, or because I am playing good and don't want to push my luck.
There have been times in the game of chess, and indeed many other things I have worked hard to get good at, where I have felt compelled to quit entirely over a series of losses. I am on such a loss streak now and feel slightly awful. When that happens I think it is advisable to take a short break, figure out what might be deteriorating your play, be it exterior distractions, lack of sleep, food, hydration, a boggled mind, anything, and then solve it and try again, which is what I intend to do over the next hour.
As the poster said, he has that competitive spirit, but in his case, lacks the motivation to try hard to improve. Chess is the sort of game that requires a lot of time, effort, and energy to get better at, some of you know that better than I. A solution to laziness is hard to find, but maybe the reason he lacks motivation in the first place is that chess just isn't for him and he doesn't really find enjoyment in it at all. It can't be for everyone. Surely he will come across something he truly enjoys, and he will feel compelled to improve at that, and I wish him luck in this endeavor.
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I take a break every couple of weeks and always come back stronger than before not knowing what actually happened in that amount of time. I am taking a couple days off starting tonight since I have not been playing well. Probably will come back sometime this weekend ether friday or saturday.
I should also mention that I have been better about toning down my aversion to losing, and have been more keen on analyzing my games win or lose using the cool new lichess.org feature "Learn From Your Mistakes". It has helped me get back into the swing of things after my break, though I am still not quite at my peak performance. I hope to be back on the road to raising my rating soon.
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"Chess ain't for sissies!" -Somebody
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